Actually Practising Detachment

Does it not so happen that we learn only after commiting a mistake? Do we not start practising a herculean task (so it seems when we never act on it) only after suffering a great loss? I fold my hands in great respect for everyone who has undergone suffering and is on the path of spirituality to come back to one’s natural self. I realized something today and wish to share the same. This can be only about myself or some of the readers may connect with it too.

When we are in the comfort of our homes, surrounded by our loved ones, seeing them everyday smiling and going about our usual activities we hardly feel the need to make any spiritual changes in our lives (again this is my personal view, not directed to anybody but only myself). We listen to satsang and follow a simple happy life. There is no resistance, no big life challenges. We have made our choices, careers and future settlement plans. Attending a spiritual retreat and listening to our Guru and the likes has become a usual activity which helps us stay calm and happy all day. At times it is more of a compulsive behaviour than actually trying to gain from the satsangs. 

What I am trying to say is as follows: unless we find a problem in hand, we do not try to make corrective measures in life. This has been my observation in life. The fear of losing someone, of the end time when we will leave all the materialistic fortunes behind never bothers us. It is when we are made to realize that something could slip out of our hands just so easily, that fear starts rising in us. The first plan of action is to save it, rather savour it, indulge in it even more. Collecting memories with our loved ones, spending time with and taking extra of our loved ones is something we start focusing on. Any sad news in the newspaper or from the next doors, makes us fearful of our own attachments. 

I was just contemplating on this and missing my mum, with whom I haven’t been able to talk daily. They are with our extended family so my twice daily calls with them have reduced significantly. Video calls have changed to voice calls. I got thinking and realized why not practise the detachment I keep reading about, it is not a thing to be practiced only with an estranged partner or ungrateful children. It is what lets you be blissful throughout the day, every nanosecond with or without any company. Why not start practising these with my immediate family and friends. It is definitely something to be practised with your housemates (family or non-family) it gives you immense strength to keep yourself away from a lot of nuisance that usually brews when living in a shared space.

I am grateful to be living in a healthy environment and with understanding housemates. With a new perspective in life to be detached and devoid of emotional attachments, while I still show my love for them from heart, I will live my life ever happily. My happiness and state of being is in my hands alone and I want to enjoy as well as give the same space to my loved ones. Those who will understand this will be happy with or without me; and for those who can not, well it’s easier if they themselves find a way out 🙂