Advantages of Having a Delayed Second Kid

Pranam Bhagwan. My tributes at your lotus feet. I am a super selfish types and will not leave your feet until you guarantee me that you won’t retire! Even if you do, I am not going to leave you Swamiji. As you are the Father and Mother both. You know what I mean. I am your ignorant and ziddi child who goes on asking for this, for that and… We four are so very much excited that we are visiting Badrika Ashram on 18th March 2022. Prabhuji, please accept my vinati for a personal meeting. I promise, that we won’t bore you. You know what we cherish. We all just want your charanamrit. Samil’s first flight travel from Hyderabad to Chandigarh will be for a spiritual cause, what a grace!

Yes, coming back to today’s topic, let me elaborate about the advantages of have a delayed second child to encourage / inspire them who are thinking on the same line!

Point 1) Minimized sibling rivalry:

Sibling rivalry is quite an annoying thing for parents. Kids who have less age gap will hanker after the same thing with same priority. If X wants to play with something, Y would definitely want to play with the same toy at the same time. And tension will flare up like Russia-Ukraine😉! NATO Forces (the parents) will be in soup. In the event, one of the kids will get thrashing or both of them will enjoy their individual prized toy. But every time the rivalry hits, it’s a real tricky situation for the parents to handle. But with good age gap when priorities are different, there is minimal clash. In our case, Sahil is highly tolerant of Samil without a bit of rivalry. We won’t have to deal with two fighting boys for the same girl err. toy 😉!

Point 2) The new kid gets a third parent:

Apart from the mother-father duo, there suddenly appears a third parent: your first child. He / she will treat the sibling as sole property, will be very possessive and will see the welfare of the sibling. When we two remain busy in some work and Samil sends his siren, the big bro swoops in donning the shoes of a parent! Right from telling him story to playing with him, soothing him, he fills in the shoes of a third parent. And we have observed that Samil enjoys the same! With all his weird actions and peculiar sounds Sahil is able to woo Samil more than us! When we ask Sahil about the secret, he just smiles back replying “It’s Bro Code😊”! Sahil has even taken the responsibility of mentoring his sibling as we would have gone obsolete by then😉

A photo of the duo sharing a cozy moment. This is the first pic of Samil which we are sharing publicly on this platform.

Point 3) Enjoying a relaxed Parenthood:

We must admit that we are enjoying a relaxed parenthood. If we had 2 kids with nearby ages, we would have gone insane without any ‘me’ and ‘we’ time. As Sahil has grown up, can do daily chores by himself, has responsibility for his studies, we feel relaxed. We are not very much worried for him and that is providing us enough time to reflect on ourselves. It is keeping us calm and balanced. We do not feel frustrated as we have seen parents handling 2 kids of nearly same age. Moreover, we are not dependent on any one for upbringing of our kids. No elderly person is there with us. But still we are able to manage things gracefully and confidently. We hope that, our confident approach will also instill confidence among our kids.

Point 4) Financial Advantage:

As both the kids have good age gap, their studies will also be well apart. As Sahil progresses through costly higher studies, Samil will be in school. When Sahil would almost be completing his Higher Education and getting job ready, Samil will enter into the foray of Higher Studies. This situation will allow us some breathing time and saving time for expenses of both the kids. Financially, we will be well positioned to tackle both the kids without much fuss. This is really an important point as far as the studies expenses are considered now-a-days.

Point 5) Enjoying the baby activities twice in life:

Yes, we are enjoying our second baby and not treating him as burden. We had almost forgot all the minute memories of Sahil’s early Childhood. Though most of the events are documented and captured digitally, we could not find sufficient time to revise through. Like Swamiji revealed asking a question and facing a question, we are reliving all the memories by facing Samil in real life. We are able to compare Sahil’s activities and Samil’s activities as a comparative study. What to do, when you are a Physics guy and your wife is a Statistician, data analysis and comparisons are imperative! Sahil is not able to digest some of his old pics and denies that it was not him. He could not do such foolishness as depicted in the pics! He is born handsome, smart and intelligent! We are getting a good opportunity to tease him till he blasts at us 😉

Point 6) Both the Kids will not dessert yo at the same time:

As per Sahil, we are lucky parents. When Sahil will be away for higher studies, we will have Samil as back up. When we asked Sahil, “What will happen when Samil leaves us for higher studies?” Sahil promptly replied,” I will be having job by then and will marry. I will bring both of you wherever I am staying on the planet or even other planet (possibly!). You will stay happily with your son and daughter-in-law! After completion of Samil’s Study, he will also get job and will get married. You will have two locations to shuttle between!” We are really lucky 😉!!!

Last, but not the least: facts figures and Scientific Studies have the following conclusion:

Delaying motherhood could mean a longer life—and a sharper brain—for mom.
Several studies agree that there is a positive association between delayed motherhood and longevity. A 2015 study showed that women who have their last child after age 33 are more likely to live to 95. Another study showed that having children later in life is “positively related to aspects of cognition later in life.”

Hope, that I have not bored you. We will be very elated if you share your valuable thoughts in this regard and let us know some disadvantages also!

Sending out positive vibes to all (including Vladimir Putin, Joe Biden and Zelensky😉) Jai Shri Hari…