Do You Share a Lot? in Self Help

When we share our story with someone like our best friend or someone we are close to, that will be just a story for them unless they have gone through the same situation. Some very rare people can understand our situation and can help.

This is so strange, we want to hear stories of struggle, success, pain, sorrow, and so on, but we do not want to listen to the stories of failure, happiness, hatred, etc.

Whenever you take a piece of advice, you need to know the other person before. Some people hear our story just for the sake of listening to that. Although listening can help heal the other person, we must choose the listener. For some people, our story can be a gossip material.

Have you ever thought about why do we share our stories? I am the kind of person who loves to share success and failure. Oh, I am that person who later realizes how much extra I shared with the other person and regret it later. Don’t be like that. Sometimes we share because we need attention, sometimes because we need care and love, and sometimes we share just because we feel lonely and want to talk.

But we don’t realize what other person will get through that. We reach out to new people, make friends and share our stories again because our loved ones are tired of listening to our stories, and a new one will be soon. We share because we have not healed yet.

Okay, we can try to share less and regret less and for that we need to speak only as much as required. I know it’s the hardest thing for an extrovert and talkative personality. We can replace our personal conversations with general conversations.

I know there are insecurities, love, and pain which we want to share, but everyone is not ready to hear that. We need to choose one person who will never get tired of listening to our stories, and you know who that person can be? That’s “you,” or if you believe in god, then your “god.” You can be who you are in front of you.

We need a person who can be empathetic. When we develop a relationship with someone else, that gives birth to expectations, which will create pain and suffering, so it’s better to have that relationship with yourself.

Share your stories but choose the listener. Sharing can help in healing.

Make decisions yourself, and don’t go to anyone else for validation. Try this.