Facing Racism in USA

I have been in the USA for quite a few years now. I miss the days when I was naive and used to think that racism is a thing of past. A lot has happened since then and now I have become a bit conscious of the color of my skin. We live in California, a very liberal and democratic state, so its a lot better here. But I have noticed that the people look at you differently in inner more rural parts of USA. Me and my family are currently vacationing and are at a resort, and I feel very out of place here. For me, this feeling does not arise at more cosmopoletian places where you can see a lot of people of different nationalities, but only at places where we are the only ones with colored skin. Some people are very accepting and make you feel welcomed, whereas some people make you feel unwelcomed and alien like. I have been thinking all this while on my vacation on how to feel comfortable in my own skin   (pun intended). I tried doing the following: 

1) I reminded myself that this is something I can do nothing about so I should just ignore the judgemental stares. 

2) I told myself that my inner dialogue will make me suffer or enjoy my surroundings.

3) I am being mindful of the fact that we did spend some money on this vacation and being a true “baniyaa” that I am, I can’t let some judgey people spoil my vacation that was paid with my husband’s hard earned money. 

I am still feeling out of place, but I am enjoying much more by keeping these points in mind. 

oh and a negative thing that I tried that I am not very proud of, is being a bit defensive and reactive to those who act on their need to feel more entitled around me. I could choose to give them a benefit of doubt and not just assume they are being racists, but yet again, 99% of the times you know when u meet one. 

I so wish sometimes that life were fair, but I am sure even I am given somethings that are too good for me and even that is not fair. So I just try to accept life the way it is, trying to be more grateful for what I am given and dealing with what seems unfair.