Insensitive, Ignorant or Indifferent?

     I am going to Meerut in an hour to  to my Mausi s house with a builder freind to discuss about their building announced my husband to me while I was at Hospital with my mom after her operation!

It had been 2 days to her major surgery and he had neither visited us( too busy with ,work ,court and walk)  not talked to my mom about how she feels.

It’s not that both have great communication and compatability with one another ( both being brutally truthful and hard working).

It was national holiday 26 th January and our 13 year old was alone at home with part timer staff and i thought with his Dad around i ll be relieved of his security.

With Swami ji s grace i m capable to drive,talk to strangers and take major desicions without getting overwhelmed or baffled.

But there r some expectations still.

My husband has given me extreme confidence, independence and excess to what ever he earns aswell aswell is most  non fussy with food.

His saying that he leaves in an hour made me teary and my voice go meek ,i said u never told me and he said it’s a sudden plan ( there was no emergency and it’s 13 years that he has been there as well we might talk to them once an year on b.day/ anniversary )

His insensitivity of realising the situation made me stutter and cut the call saying now i have a habbit to manage all myself.

Unlike his usual self he called me immideately to say i should not get annoyed and he had committed his Aunt.

I said had he shared with them ,there was a major surgery in house? Our child had no one to be looked after by whole day ,aswell would He have given me this leaverage if any of his parent was at hospital and i had neither talked nor visited his ailing parent.

2 years back i never gave myself a choice to ever not accompany his mom  for a chemo or dentist session.,(even when i don’t think i did any Rak in black Lotus daily evaluation..i mark call a parent. Because my parent lives with me rather i live with them ,is calling them a kindness? )

My husband again called not atall his original short tempered and impatient self and Appologised saying sorry but u r so strong i never felt u needed me. In next 1 hour he visited us at hospital too and cancelled his Meerut trip too.

When i came back home yesterday night with my mom from hospital ( have employed 2 attendants together for lifting my heavy mom to be taken to wash room), my son asked me will u take me for lunch to restaurant today?

Ofcourse i dint smile at the question neither did i get mad … people can’t think/ speak or act as we expect and it makes us upset and sad too.

Tell me os.me are they Insensitive, ignorant or Indifferent? How can I play a role to make them kind and concerned?