Love

Love is that which binds us together – keeps this manifested universe integrated as one but simultaneously giving all bodies the freedom to move and be according to their own choices. Love is what pulls us towards the object of love. Science calls it gravity.

I tried to ponder on how this vast universe, infinite stars and planets systems, even comets – all of them are moving around some or other bigger star, without any string attached. I hypothised, it’s Love. And ‘Trust’ is that invisible string through which love binds the two lovers. Love, or trust thereby, is that magic, which can even bind the free.

If we love a person or an idea, it would imply that we trust that and IF we trust, then question of evaluation, calculation, judgement and choices disappear. Putting our trust into someone means letting go of our choices. Getting rid of these layers of our own choices which we have kept protected through all these years (before experiencing love), makes love difficult. This is the most excruciating task of life – to trade your own choices, your own past life with the idea or person whom you have put your trust in. In this way love is also a great transformational catalyst.

If we see logically, it looks like a gamble. Because our mind is result oriented. ‘would it turn alright?’ it would ask. Mind wants to protect the individuality ‘I’ it has invested in, throughout life.

Love, for this fact is not easy. In love, we say no to ourself and yes to the other be it any idea, any person or our deity. In love it’s always 0-1, never a win. If it’s 1-0, then we’re lucky, because that idea, or person or deity loves us more ! We are more of a recipient then, not a giver. That’s why it’s said that in love, loser is ultimate winner.

To solve the puzzle of love, ‘Trust’ is answer. And it can’t be understood frankly how to trust. It’s a process of letting go (of mental calculations and hypothesis). It’s being an unintelligent and a fool. That’s why smart people can never love. They can never see the beauty of it, the exhilaration of free fall. 

In order to love, mind has to be switched off. Mind matters only till we make a conscious decision of ‘whom to love, whom to trust’. Once we have decided, then we have to let go and immerse our mind in the river of that trust. However it’s possible that all calculations will go haywire and we might even question our choices. Mind could go upside down, but we must just flow with trust. If we identify with our mind and it’s infinite thoughts and the games it plays, then it becomes heavy, and will drown. If we identify with the river of trust itself, we will flow even if the ride is full of rapids.

So, now the question is, Do we really love someone? And it’s a ‘personal’ question that we can ask only to ourselves not to the other. If you ask it to the other, it breaks the rule of trust (the river itself). Asking would simply mean we don’t trust (or love), for love is personal, it’s not transactional. Love is not presence of a lover, it’s absence of our own mind and individuality.