My Struggle with Standing Up

From the very first day of school, we start getting bullied. People comment on our body structure and so on. I have been the victim in that case since childhood. People don’t realize this, but they are making things difficult for the other person. I have already written about body shaming and my problem of S to F. I still face that. I don’t want to be harsh, but I want to remind them again that,  it hurts. Do you know what’s the worst? You also start believing all those things. That happened to me. I have begun accepting all those things. 

Once i commented on my best friend’s picture and said you look like a girl today. As I always saw her as a tomboy. Her savage reply took me into deep contemplation mode, and her answer was simple and full of savage “ Having a vagina and boobs already made me a girl.” I love her for that. When I say people do my body shaming without realizing I also do sometimes. Who I consider close. Ah, this close thing. If somebody is close to you or you are close that does not gives you a license of being disrespectful.  She took a stand for herself that day, and I never took it, but I am taking it now.

You know why we don’t take a stand just because of fear of letting go. We don’t want to let other people go. I am working on that now. Those who are yours will never leave you, and those who go, were never yours. Hard to believe, but accepting the facts.

People don’t feel the pain you feel. They say things and move on, but you are the one who struggles then. Everybody is different, so you are also different. You know, there comes the point when I started changing myself just because of others. But now I understand. I want to change for myself but in a different way. I feel guilty for not taking a stand but now no more guilts.

Take a stand for yourself, don’t be a fool like me.

Keep smiling,

Thank you,

Riya Om

PS: Thank you medha ma’am for pushing me to write this 🙂

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