Say It Out Loud

We fail to realize that the simplest things are the most important and powerful tools. We are always looking for grand, miraculous solutions to our problems. This is because we believe our problems to gigantic and our struggle to be the hardest. What if I told you that your problems are not as big as you think they are? Don’t take my word for it, take yours. Let me explain.

A couple of months back most of my thoughts were revolving around the problems I had, I was on the look for a miracle. I was in a phase where I alternated between complaining and asking for a miracle to Him. God listening to my prayers blessed me with a one. I was confiding (more like complaining) to one of my friends about how hard life seemed, telling him about all the problems I was facing. To my disappointment, he did not console me or even agreed with me. All he said was “You are thinking too much of it, it is not that complicated” and went on to suggest a few simple solutions. “You don’t get what I am going through, try being in my shoes and you would get what I am saying” I shot at him.

A week later musing over my problems and the conversation I had had. I started talking to myself (weird I know). about the problems I had But, the moment I voiced my problem, it seemed simple. And surprisingly I came up with a solution, which was far from miraculous (still it worked). It was then I realized that our problems need to be seen from a second person view. The moment I looked at my problem as if it was somebody else’s, it was no longer gigantic. And the solution was simple. The easiest way to look at it in a second person view is to ‘say it out loud’ because it feels as if you are telling someone. This is the reason we get the solution to our problems the moment we start telling someone about it.

Despite a simple solution, why is it that we feel the need to tell someone, even when we already have the solution? The answer is sympathy and empathy. We need someone to give us a hug and tell us that it will all be okay. If you have someone like that, good for you. If you don’t, give yourself a tight hug, it is equally comforting. If you have both kinds of people in your life, the ones who tell you that you are overcomplicating simple things, and the ones who will tell you that it will be okay. You are lucky! The former will give you a reality check and the later will indulge you. Though it is a blessing to have these people, don’t worry if you don’t as long as you have yourself.