Too Quick To Comment?

A common tendency that we all have to some extent is to react immediately. And the very first way of reacting is commenting. We are too quick to comment on everything. Clearly, we are a very verbal species…

And if we compare the proportion of our good vs. bad words every single day, the latter will far outnumber the first. And we spend a lot of energy in conversations. But, rarely do we engage in sensible conversations, neither on the streets, at the coffee table, nor on the phone. We are very much mindless in talking. And it’s not only the content that matters, you know, the way we speak, with what intention, attitude and whether with empathy or violence —all that matter a great deal. But, unfortunately, most people would score very low in these areas. I think that’s a great drawback as a human being…because you know, we are supposed to be the most inclusive and compassionate species on earth. But, rarely do we practice that in speech at least. 

It’s a very strong urge—to react, to hurl back at the other person (s) in equal proportion, to establish our position as well; but, this reactiveness is a great downfall which we must overcome. It dehumanizes us. You’ll never see a truly wise and compassionate human being behaving compulsively or reactively. That’s a sign of inner maturity. A lot of inner stability is needed.

My point is just this: don’t be too quick to react. At least, hold your tongue back for some time. Practice it. And you know—if you are intelligent you would—it’s not always necessary to react. In fact, most of the time, it’s not. But, we react anyway, out of habit or compulsion. This is partly because we live among such people. They are all around us who are very reactive in nature. Even if we don’t want to, we often get provoked, irritated and restless. That’s okay, we are what we are. But, this has to be overcome. I see it as absolutely necessary to become a true human being. I’d beckon you to be more self-restrained. Don’t get carried away in others’ flow. It’s not only unhealthy—both physically and mentally—but sheer stupidity as well. 

I hope you’ve got my point. 

Thank you for your time here. 

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