Two Things To Have A Peaceful Life.

Two Things To Have A Peaceful Life.

Titbits of A Candid Conversation.

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I have a friend. She is married. It’s been three years now. We are very good friends, even from before her marriage, and she shares her issues with me. I have a deep affection for her too. 

She is a simple-hearted girl. With her, the problem is, she gets hurt very easily. If somebody says something unpleasant, she can’t take it. Her eyes get wet very easily. So, she was telling me how she is having adjustment issues with her mother-in-law and how her mother-in-law treats her. 

She faces adjustment issues. And frequently she goes through emotional upheavals. As usual, something happened, which was a trivial issue, but feelings of anger, hatred, and disrespect emerged between them. Her mother-in-law is not sweet-tongued. And this is the reason she gets upset very frequently. In protest, she doesn’t eat or talk to anyone. This happens quite often. 

I am not a married person. And I don’t understand the intricacies of family life either. But, I am her friend, and as I said, I have a deep affection for her. So, I shared my thoughts with her. Her problem is she is emotionally very vulnerable. She gets upset very easily. She breaks down at the whip of harsh or insensitive words. So, I said, listen, you just have to do two things—

First, never intentionally say anything which may hurt any person. 

Second, if anyone hurts you, intentionally or unintentionally, just don’t hold on to their words. Let it go. Don’t carry it in your heart. Just let it go. 

These are the two things we have to practice. You know, most of our hurt is the result of insensitive words. Every day we kill others with our words. And this destroys our mental peace. We carry those words in our hearts as wounds, and our relationships get affected. So, the solution is to drop everything, never holding anything. And, also, not to say insensitive things. If we practice these two things, our life can be much more peaceful, because we’ll have mental peace. When we don’t carry our wounds and don’t hold feelings of animosity against others, we become light. And this gives us peace. 

So, these are the two things to be aware of. As simple as they sound, they can really make our life more peaceful and conflict-free. Try and see. 

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P.S: I wrote two posts on how to deal with hurts and the way to deal with conflicts. Read them here and here.

Thank you.

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