What It Takes to Hug a Parent from Adult Child?

   You are treating her as a 90 year plus who has no life and purpose left…she deserves 10 more years of life atleast….said an ICU head Doctor to me 2 weeks back.

My mom was admitted there for Sepsis which she had developed after a total knee replacement surgery and catheter use 5 days post a discharge home and now a re admission in the hospital where she was operated.

Being an only child with no Father, uncle,aunts , cousins But FAITH and Finance by my side ,i was in a dillema.

To shift her to a multi speciality hospital with cardiac and naphro care too or keep her in the same hospital where she was operated.

My mom has been an extremely hard working woman with nerves of steel, she is a double post graduate with a professional degree in education, guiding, insurance and now Soka gakai budhism too.

Being an independent and self reliant person she has neither let me make her food nor do her bank works too though she is at our place from last 11 years when i lost my Father.

Being the princess of my Dad there was never a Physical expression of love between my mom and me,maybe i was too busy expressing it to my father and was too satisfied with his cajoling, kissing, hugging and telling me time and again how much he loved me.

After i lost my Father, that unsaid physical distance kept lingering between my mom and me…she is not that lovey dovey cuddly mom as i m with my kids.

We both care and love each other but may be we were miser in our expression and action.

The ICU episode that too after Swami ji s regret article in which 100s of us have expressed how we could have spent more time with our parents,shook me from inside!

Would i get another chance to express that latent love between us?

With Swami ji immense blessings and Hanuman ji s grace my mom is back home.

She is recovering though weak but i did get a second chance in this Life only to make her feel belonged,needed and loved.

Os.me we all are parents or kids to some souls.  Lets not close our lips for the ones who are in our Heart!