You Know It’s on and on and off and On.

Happy New Year Dearest os.me fam!!

New Year is finally here and I have heard that beginnings always hide themselves in ends. This year is a new beginning, with 2022 coming to an end. In 2023 it’s more possible that you would meet new people, and people you already know; some relationships will grow, some would stay, and some would break off, for it’s in the very nature of life that things change. But, one thing’s for sure- that we are always related.

We cannot be unrelated to the world around us, that’s not possible, just like in the words of my favorite philosopher:

“No one can live without relationship. You may withdraw into the mountains, become a monk, a sannyasi, wander off into the desert by yourself, but you are related. You cannot escape from that absolute fact. You cannot exist in isolation.” – J. Krishnamurti 

I have always felt curious about what is the secret of harmonious living, that is, to be related to others harmoniously, where it is certain that no single individual can truly agree with us on all fronts and always, or be in the same shoes as us. In an intimate relationship, like that of a marriage, I often find people failing to follow the dictum of love. But I have seen marriages that have stood the test of time. One of them is of my aunt’s( father’s sister). She has a very happy and cordial married life with her husband.

One day, I saw my uncle shouting in anger at her. She quietly listened to him then, until his rage calmed down. Then I saw something which was very amusing to me. She left him there and came to us children, and laughed off the whole incident. She started making fun of him, saying he is a mad person of sorts who is always getting angry. She made us laugh and we children were enjoying the way she was jocularly roasting him. While this was happening, guess what? My uncle was sitting just across the corner listening to her making fun of him. This to me was hilarious and, to this day, has been an important life lesson that is – to know when to tolerate it, when to laugh it off, and when to give a comeback!

Both, one by one, vented out their heart’s hurt in their own ways and while one was doing that, the other was silent. What else is harmony? You’re probably going to be angry sometimes if you’re human, and so can the other be angry at you. What matters is how one develops that equation in that relationship. Well, this was my tiny-tot relationship anecdote, but our writers here at os.me, have their own interesting take on relationships. 

Wisdom from Our Members’ Bowl

A Marriage Story– Ashram resident Divya Manoharan shares her story of her family trying to find her a suitable boy for marriage. She shares her take on what love and marriage are supposed to be, paraphrasing and quoting from the good books about the same she has come across. My individual take from her profound expression is to not settle for anything less than what you are seeking and wholly deserve, that is to never sell one’s soul for anything. She is already a popular author on os.me, but if you missed this post, do check it out!

While I Was Away…– Rajesh Ji shares his key observations from the emotional upheavals in others’ lives that he had to get personally involved in. The learnings he derives seem very valid and he also shares a solution that is not a panacea but of course, is the closest thing to deriving harmony in life. Read this insightful post to learn more.

Answer! It’s Either a ‘Yes’ or a ‘No’– Vejay Ji shares the day of his life when he had to go for surgery, and he expected his son to come over with him, to which his son could not oblige, and explained his situation to his father. To hide his dismay at unfulfilled expectations Vejay Ji says to his son that even just a ‘yes’ or ‘no’ is enough, he need not explain. It is later that he realized that even in a no there are so many yesses involved and how sometimes just a ‘yes’ or ‘no’ is not enough. The post is filled with a lot of warmth and learning, and you will love it.

Interested In Someone?– In this post, Suchali L wonderfully delves and answers the question that what are the psychological factors due to which we get attracted to someone, or why do we follow someone in life, on social media, or any other platform? Read on to find out key insights and also read about her love for a song that took the internet by storm and became an instant hit crossing language and national boundaries. 

Gospel of Om Swami 

What’s in Your Wallet? – I remember reading a story in childhood that how a man’s shoes can define his personality. I am not sure about the shoes but one’s wallet can tell a lot about one’s mind and current priorities. Swamiji shares an important perspective on how change is the only constant that life wants to uphold, and that”often in the wake of ticking off things, people lose sight of the real stuff, they lose track of their own life.” Relationships are on and on and off and on and to know more about them read this insightful post from Him.

Bonus

Be better with os.me – In order to follow the trending vision of becoming better as a community by harnessing the power of keystone habits, I will share my vision for this month which is to smile and laugh more often while walking, while sitting, while doing something, and while meeting people at the office or elsewhere, because when I do this I will be happier, and healthier, full of positivity, which will thereby enrich my relationships. I will be writing a post for the same in compliance with this week’s newsletter.

Your task is to forge your own habit for this month in regard to any facet of your life and to be accountable, you have to write a post as to what you will try to achieve. If you want to develop a habit in regards to relationships like me, you can first post it here in the comments section and later write a post about it tagging the “Relationships” theme while writing, for you, might well get featured in upcoming round-ups. Sounds like a plan??

Let us #bebetterwithosme

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Postscript: This is the first round-up by me as a Samurai. I hope you liked it, and if you have any feedback or suggestions do let me know. I also wish that you would shower our featured writers with your warmth by writing your comments in their post and by following them, who so lovingly share their wisdom with us. Also, you can follow me for more such round-ups which I’ll be posting on the 6th of each month. 

Warmest Regards❤️

Nalin Om